MY GREATEST SKILL

                                                 

I believe living is loving, the more we live, the more the need to love and appreciate people arise, just like they say; seeing is believing, it is usually easier to believe in somebody or something when we see with our own eyes, rather than merely being told, it provides satisfaction and erases doubt.

My greatest skills are love and lack of fear, I love with all my heart, not the kind of love you may be thinking as you are reading this right now, but; the agape love of God that enables one to love one another as though, they were your brothers and sisters, the kind of love that conquers all things, the unconditional love of God.

Nevertheless; it is this agape love of God that erases the fear of failing that usually prevents one from trying in the first place.  With this love you will see the opportunity in every situation and when these opportunities are properly utilized, the sky will be your starting point rather than your limit.

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TRUTHFULNESS

                                               

I feel it’s very easy to avoid putting oneself into an uncomfortable situation in life at times, it is better to be punished for telling the truth than be punished even when you are lying because; it means that when the truth is finally out, you still get punished for lying in the first place.

Another point is that; you will be at the risk of losing your trust as well as giving yourself a bad reputation even though; it was just a single lie, besides a single lie pave way for 100 more lies, and before you know it, you cultivate a habit of lying, and lie unnecessarily.

Nonetheless, lies complicate issues that could have been easy and simple to understand in an ordinary sense of it.   Stand for the truth always, whether or not the stakes seen very high, even if you are being punished for telling the truth, hang in there; soon enough, you will be vindicated and you will gain the trust of so many people as a reliable and trustworthy fellow. 

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IF I COULD TURN BACK THE HANDS OF TIME

                                              

I have a feeling that each and every one of us, at some point in our lives, we just wish we could turn back the hands of time; usually for the fact that we want to make corrections to mistakes made in the past.

The areas we want to make amends and corrections to could be in; our relationship with our family, friends and loved ones etc.  But most at times; from the stories I hear around from friends and acquaintances, a reasonable number of people especially females, wish they could turn back the hands of time when they see their high school crush after college, they begin to wonder what they ever saw in the person in the first place.

Although, I would say that; maturity and education changes a lot of things so, do not beat yourself up over a past mistake, it was not your fault because you were just ignorant and wouldn’t deliberately make the mistake if you knew better, besides experience is the best teacher. 

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LITTLE THINGS THAT MATTER

                                                

Sometimes we often feel less concerned about little things, but little do we know that; these little things matter a lot and can either lead to greater things or make the biggest changes we least expect, overlooking certain things we do not see as a big deal is not the way to go.

By little things I mean; forgetting a dear friend’s birthday and not knowing when a dear friend need you for comfort during an emotional trauma and yet, you claim to be a good friend.  These things look small like it’s never going to be a big deal, but the truth is that; as little as it may seem, it is very much capable of destroying a long term friendship for good.

Although; for some at a single omission of little things like I mentioned above, their friendship is as good as over, while for some other people, you have to make the same mistake over and over before they can understand that you are not a worthy friend, so; let’s not neglect the feelings, interest and affections of our friends and loved ones and always strive to prove to them that our friendship with them was never a mistake.  As a good friend you should be able to read through your friend and know when he/she needs you.

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IF I AM WORLD FAMOUS FOR 15 MINUTES

                                                    

I will grab the opportunity of being world famous for 15minutes with both hands because; it’s not every day that an ordinary civilian like me, get the opportunity to do something that is worth remembering by the whole world for that matter.  And I definitely want to be remembered for something good.

Therefore, I would make a difference through perhaps motivational talks with regards to abandoned babies and in as much as I cannot help them all at the same time, I would make sure that I put a smile on the face of a child in the motherless baby’s home; thereby motivating others on the importance of helping those who have dedicated themselves in the service of abandoned children.

I would do this little in 15mins and possibly be remembered for it for a long time because; that innocent little child would probably remember me for a long time and my motivational talk would perhaps linger on even after 15mins, because; the people who were touched would continue from where I stopped by; putting smiles on the faces of abandoned children and introducing others into the act which will make it an endless chain.

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A SKILL SET CALLED LEADERSHIP

                                              

Leadership to my understanding is the ability to direct the affairs of a given group of people in order to achieve a common goal.  Leadership is a skill one is either born with or an acquired skill as the case may be, a good leader leads with; humility, obedience, charisma and patience etc.

Moreover, a person born with the skill to lead, usually leads with the aforementioned qualities that defines a good leader and more, this person is usually the people’s choice, take for example; Nelson Mandela, the way the people celebrate him shows how much of a good leader he was and still is even at present, one who is not afraid of making sacrifices and taking risks for the people and always ready to render selfless service to the people.

Nevertheless, leadership as a skill can be developed with the right knowledge and understanding, although, born leaders are still the best because; wherever they are an ordinary person can spot them out through the charisma they carry along with them even without knowing it.

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THE SANDTON CITY

                                                  

Ever since I arrived here in South Africa, one of the beautiful places I thought I should visit considering the way people talk about it is the Sandton City, although I have been to several beautiful places in the country and I must say that South Africa is a beautiful place.

Coming to Johannesburg for my holiday made visiting Sandton City one of my priority.  It’s indeed a beautiful city on its own; I can’t find the perfect word to describe the beauty of the city.  It felt so good and divine while I was there, seeing the beautiful buildings, large malls and beautiful things in Sandton City makes you fantasize as if you are in a fairytale land.

Although, being there and having no money to do justice to the nice things you see makes it worse, as the harsh reality of life automatically sets in and take you out of your fairytale imaginations.  Nevertheless, the beauty of the city motivated and made me determined to work hard and succeed in all I do, because for me that seems to be the only way to achieve all my heart desires.

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A SENSE OF SATISFACTION

                                                  

There is nothing as sweet as doing something that your heart wants you to do, most especially something that has been able to either benefit or touch somebody’s life somewhere, it usually gives me a sense of satisfaction knowing that I can touch a person’s life in a positive way.

Although some people may find it difficult letting other people in; the point is that; without going closer to people it may be difficult to touch other people’s life in a way that will be appreciated, because you need to go closer, listen, understand and not judge them before you can have the opportunity to change them for the better.

Nevertheless, it is better for your association with other people to be the reason for their positive change, because; it would mean that you are doing something right that is worthy of emulation and recommendation, rather than be the reason for their negative change of behaviour and in the end it will surely give you a sense of satisfaction.

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CELL PHONE TEENAGERS

                                                   

                             kate busy with her phone while the class is in progress.  

I am assuming that; the primary reason why most parents buy their children cell phones at a tender age is basically to; keep in touch with their children and to be able to communicate with them at any given time, either through phone calls or text messages.

Although, what the teenagers do with their cell phones is really far from the primary reason why they have the cell phone in the first place, most at times when teenagers should be in bed sleeping or doing their homework, they stay glued to their cell phones doing God knows what and texting or chatting with God knows who; thereby drifting away from important things which is basically their education at that stage.

None the less, I am not insinuating that; all teenagers with cell phones drift away, what am trying to say is that; parents should make sure that, in as much as their children are in possession of a cell phone at a tender age, that it is not doing them any harm than good and that it does not distract them from actively participating in their academic work.

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“ROCK JOURNALISM IS PEOPLE WHO CAN’T WRITE, INTERVIEWING PEOPLE WHO CAN’T TALK FOR PEOPLE WHO CAN’T READ” (Frank Zappa).

                                                   

According to the urban dictionary; “rock journalism is the act of meeting with punk musicians to interview them for a zine before a concert, rocks out and head bang during the concert, parties with the musicians after the show, then retiring to a quiet room to write a review and write down the interview transcript word-for-word; one who suffers the worst case of rock hangover than anyone else in the scene”.  Anyone who practices this is called a rock journalist.

Therefore, if rock journalism is people who can’t write, it means that they can express themselves by asking questions verbally without any written word, being that they cannot write, they can meet their client or rock musicians on a face-to-face basis while someone either writes or records the interview in order to get their questions answered.

On the other hand, interviewing people who can’t talk for people who can’t read is of no use, because; people who can’t talk cannot reply any of your interview questions.  Moreover, it can only work if; the people who can’t talk can read and write, while people who can’t read can talk, otherwise, this whole quote by Frank Zappa makes no sense to me at all.

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LIVING AND EXISTING

                                                   

Living and existing is usually determined by several criteria’s among which are; the way you go about your daily activities, the way you carry yourself, the way you do and understand things around you and the your general perception of life determines if you are living or merely existing.

A person who is living would naturally have control over his or her entire life decisions and they determine the path their life takes, whereas a person who is merely existing usually take everything that is happening around them to be beyond their control without making any effort to direct their own path towards life.

None the less, when it comes to emotion, the existing one allow emotions like fear to determine what they can and can’t do, while the one who is living does not let such things to interfere with their decisions, abilities and life in general.  A person who is living life to the fullest is usually remembered for great things while an existing person is not remembered at all perhaps because, they were never known.  Would you rather live or merely exist?  Drop your comment.

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TIME OR MONEY

                                                
Just like people often say; “Time is money”, which means that it would be difficult, if not impossible to choose between time and money this is because, they both work hand-in-hand and as a matter of fact, how much time you work determines how much money you get in  any working environment.

In order words, the only possible way of reconciling time and money would perhaps be by, finding a way to strike a balance between the two.  Although if I am meant to choose between time and money, I would choose time in as much as money seems the obvious choice, because, as long as one is alive there would always be more than enough time to work towards things that will earn one a lot of money in the future.

Despite that, if you look at my last sentence above, you will notice that; choosing time over money did not prevent money from coming into the picture, this simply shows that time and money are relevant and often cannot be easily separated.  Rather find a way to strike a balance between time and money, instead of choosing between them.

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LIST YOUR TOP 200 ACHIEVEMENTS

                                                                                                 
                                My dinner/award night at work 2011. One of my acheivement.     

Listing my top 200 achievements is not going to be an easy task, but I am going to list a few of my achievements, and leave the rest for another day, just like they say; “People who fight and run, live to fight another day”, *smiles*.  My achievements are as follows;

·         The day I was born.

·         My first word.

·         My first step.

·         My first school leaving certificate.

·         When I was made the class prefect in junior high school.

·         When I became the school time keeper in first senior high.

·         When I did a training, which earned me a peer educators certificate, sponsored by UNICEF in senior high.

·         When I became the vice president of UNESCO club in high school.

·         When I was made the deputy senior prefect in high school.

·         Acquiring my senior school leaving certificate.

·         When I first got into college.

·         I was awarded the ebony queen in my second year at the university.

·         I was awarded the best dancer in my second year at the university.

·         When I was awarded my national diploma certificate in mass communication.

·         When I acquired my diploma in computer studies.

·         My first job.

·         My promotion.

·         My first professional award at work for most loyal and hardworking staff.

·         When I got two B Tech acceptances to study PRM or Events management at CPUT.

·         How well I did on my first individual assignment at CPUT.

·         My experience as a first time blogger and how it has made my writing skills better.

·         Being here in Johannesburg for the first time.

·         Staying away in a different country, away from my parents.

·         How determined I have learnt to be.

·         My good experiences abroad are my greatest achievement’s etc.

Everything one experiences in life is an achievement, big or small, because some people do not have the privilege to experience or achieve such, so be grateful for the little things so that, when the bigger ones come you will know how to give thanks.

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STRAYING YOUTH

                                                     

The youth are the back bone and future of the nation, just as was stated in one of my previous posts titled; “The importance of the youth”.  The youth easily adapt to changing environment and advancements especially in technology.

That is to say that; whatever the youth set their mind on, they get it done at all cost, that could be as a result of their courageous and fearless attitude, which is why a huge chunk of the youth are involved in a lot of societal ills like; armed robbery, drugs and violence etc.  This shows how much the youth have strayed.

With the aforementioned in mind, how would the youth be regarded being that they are the future of the nation?  That is a question I would like us to ponder on, the youth especially.  Although, the answer is obvious because, the development of the nation would not be ensured, the reason being that, the supposed future generation is straying.  Let us all join hands and help our youth who have strayed to find their way again. 

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THE IMPORTANCE OF THE YOUTH

                                                    

The youth are very capable and active in deciding and adhering to the socio political development in a given society, they often make up the largest portion of the entire society, community, country or nation as the case may be.

Moreover, they are important perhaps because of their persuasive, energetic and courageous behaviour, they are the future of the nation that is why in almost every situation, the first people to sort for their support are the youth, probably because without their support whatever the government especially is planning will not be successful.

None the less, I implore my fellow youth to stand for development and success and deviate from violence because, violence does not bring development, and rather it destroys our efforts and that of the entire society and does not guarantee a successful future in any case.  The youth are very important and thus; whatever they do determines the future of our society.

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THE EVIL THAT MEN DO LIVE WITH THEM

                                                    

Back in the olden days, people used to say that; “The evil that men do live after them”, which I understand to mean that, when men commit atrocities during their lifetime, they do not reap the consequences of their actions, rather their children and future generations suffer for the sins of their fathers.

Believe it or not, it has now been rephrased as “The evil that men do live with them and not after them”, which means that; people who commit atrocities live to bear the consequences’ of their actions and not the other way around.

None the less, that is the way it should be, people who commit evil should live to bear the consequences of their actions rather than, involve innocent people simply because they are related.  We all have to be careful and think properly about the future effects our decisions and actions would cause and consider what it could do to our family and loved ones before indulging in atrocious acts and save ourselves the pain and shame.

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CHILDREN ARE GIFTS FROM GOD

                                                      

Children are gifts from God, if you don’t have after marriage, you become restless, worried and complain and if you do have children, you still worry and complain.  Whichever the case, worrying and complaining are present, although differs according to the situation respectively.

Therefore, if you are married without children, according to people’s experiences and the West African cultural perspective, you worry because there is a tendency that, your husband will take another wife to provide him with an heir, which makes it a tragic situation, simply because your husband and his people are not patient enough to wait for God’s time.

On the other hand, if you have children, you still worry about things like; the children’s education, up keep and future etc.  When they disturb unnecessarily as a result of growing up which in most cases is inevitable you complain as well, although the difference in this case is that, both the worrying and complaining is of joy because, when you look at the children you are grateful to God for giving them to you.  My sister and her children inspired me to write this piece.

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